A few days ago, I found a very great and profound article in Adam Zadeh's wonderful blog Gorean Wines:
In my journeys though out Second Life I have heard again and again the same lament. My boyfriend/husband/significant other does not/will understand my need to explore my submissive side. So they start to explore this need via virtual reality programs like SL or via "relationship" sites like Collar Me, and the much superior Fet Life - where at least you can learn something.Though I wouldn't call SL a game (I think i mentioned that already somewhere) I think this article is a really great read for everyone who wants to be - or just play - a slave in SL.
I personally see no harm in this. However I have always argued that unless you experience some of these things in reality, you have no idea what it feels like. Your reactions will be much more realistic in the game if your mind has an idea of what it would be liked to be flogged. To be tied up or to be forced to do things. This little article is not geared towards those of us in the lifestyle (Gorean or otherwise) but towards those that are "newbie's" to BDSM.
Some of these little exercises may make you smile, but each is designed to "give you a taste" of what a slave on Gor may have experienced in their day to day lives. [read more...]
What exercises are what he writes about? Well, duh - things you see each kajira or slave girl doing in SL.. Things like: trying the slave positions, trying how it feels to wear a collar, trying to be mindful in your acts - and a few more. And he is right, it does add realism and plausibility to your acts in the realms of SL, other virtual worlds - or even chatrooms.
These are only suggestions, how you meet your desires is up to you....but the journey there is full of wonderful surprises.And that is something I totally can admit.Kudos to such an insightful blog and such a great article.
But this article very much reminded me of my own way to become a slave in SL, and also of a post I wrote long time ago:
Gem's blog: a few thoughts about being a slave: "I consider myself a slave, slave of Mistress Lexi Leiner , Her property. A slave with privileges though, but nonetheless a slave. You might..."